Well… so much has happened in the last few months, it’s hard to know where to start. Some good, some not, and some very sad. Starting with the worst – the sad news – so very sad. My Mom had a massive stroke on 5 May, and did not recover. The damage to her poor brain was so great that there would be no meaningful recovery, no quality of life for her, and no communication. Mom had made her wishes very clear to the family, and there was no question of feeding tubes, etc to prolong her life. After several tests at the stroke center over 2 days, they confirmed for us that her brain was very very badly damaged. She opened her eyes a bit and she did squeeze my hand a couple of times right at first. I felt that she saw and recognized me twice during the first 2 days. Her ability to speak was gone. After that, she just got weaker and less responsive. We moved her to the Hospice facility where she was so well taken care of, the staff there were all so kind. And there she passed away on 18 May at the age of 83. We were all so heartbroken… I miss her so much, and feel like there is still a hole in my heart.
We are all grateful that she did not suffer, she felt no pain, and did not have time to be afraid. The stroke was so sudden, it was just an instant of there and then not there. Since she was luckily with a neighbor when it happened, she got immediate help. That was such a blessing that she was not alone, and we are all so thankful for that.
We had 2 very beautiful memorial services for her – one here in SC for friends and some family, and another larger service in Wilmette. It was nice to see so many old friends and family there. We gathered together a bunch of old and new pictures and Bruce made a video with music. It was beautiful, and very touching… we played it after both services, and everyone just loved seeing it. She is now with Daddy in Heaven. It is comforting to me to know that they are once again together, strong, healthy, and at peace. Hers was a life well lived, with love, joy, and such a wonderfully positive spirit.
We are in the process of going through all of her belongings, all financial stuff, and all the endless details that have to be completed at the end of a life. My siblings will be here in a couple of weeks to help go through things at her house. I am doing what I can before they get here.
This post was intended to be just a quick overview of several events that have happened since I last logged on… I will get back to that another day…